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Dear God I Hate My Marriage
Category: FinanceHating your marriage is not going to do anything. It is wasted energy. You have to make a decision what you want to do about the marriage that you hate. Marriage is always a verb. It’s active for good or for bad. You have to come to the point that you hate your marriage enough to act. You can act to restore it or act to end it through divorce court. God will always be on the side of restoration.
To restore a marriage begins with forgiveness, repentance and yielding to what God wants for both of you. It means staying in your prayer closet even when your spouse is acting like a nut (excluding abusive situations). Turn your emotions into a spiritual weapon to destroy the things that you hate in marriage through prayer. God said that his word is mighty to pull down strongholds. Well you might say, I’ve been praying. Check what you are praying about. Are you always asking God to change your spouse or are you asking him to change you? You will be amazed at what happens when you start asking God to change you.
Make a determination that this time next year my marriage is going to be better and have enough faith to put God to the test. Do you think he can’t handle your spouse? Do you think he doesn’t know how to restore love and passion? He’s the author of it.
I will never forget the story of a woman that I knew that had a very bad marriage. She kept praying for her husband to become a Christian and that he would go to church and that he would stop arguing and fighting with her. One day she asked God why he was not answering her prayer since she had been praying for so long. God told her to seek peace and pursue it. She did not know what that meant until God explained to her to stop doing anything in their relationship that did not end with a peaceful resolve.
When she asked her husband to go to church that did not bring peace so she quit asking him. When she talked to him about Christianity he did not want to hear it, so she stopped discussing it and went on to enjoy her relationship in the Lord. He loved to argue and throw stuff at her, so when he would start a fight she would just sit there and not say anything or leave.
Her doing this consistently for a few years wore him down. One day he just stopped. He said I’ve done everything I could to try to get you to fight, but you really have changed. That was the end of their arguments and eventually he started attending church. All she did was apply one of God’s scriptures and stuck to it. She pursued peace at all costs and stopped worrying about what he did or did not do. As a result he changed.
Linda Leon is a person who loves God, enjoys inspiring people and has done a gazillion things like write books, produce TV programs, and get ordained. Feel free to contact her blog at lifeis2good.wordpress.com. ©copyright 2007 by Linda Leon.
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